12 Rules for Living, Part 2

In the previous program, I was discussing Dr. John Schindler’s wonderful book, “How to Live 365 Days a Year,” and his twelve rules that can make your life richer.

The first six rules were:
  1. Keep life simple.
  2. Avoid watching for a knock in your motor.
  3. Learn to like work.
  4. Have a good hobby.
  5. Learn to be satisfied with things you can’t change.
  6. Like people and join the human enterprise.

Those were the points we covered in the last program. Here are the rest:

Number 7: Get into the habit of saying the cheerful, pleasant thing.

Hardly a moment arises during an entire lifetime that wouldn’t be benefited more by a humorous sally or a cheerful lift than by a mean barb or a sharp gripe. I know executives who carry on under tremendous pressure as affable and agreeable as a person without a problem in the world. They are the boys who get along with everyone and stay out of the hospitals. So, form the habit of saying the cheerful, pleasant thing; you have nothing to lose, and a great deal to gain.

Number 8: Meet adversity by turning defeat into victory.

Sometimes, everything a person has appears to have vanished in one moment… and they are completely at a loss to go on. Futility and frustration are piled on disaster. The underlying crack in most of the people who give way beneath adversity is the immaturity of selfishness and egocentricity. The death of a person close to them is calculated in terms of what it means to them, personally, in the way of services lost.

One poor woman who had always been extremely selfish and self-centered became hysterical after her husband died, to the point where she insisted that her son withdraw permanently from college to keep her company. She said, “Otherwise, I’ll be alone here! I can’t be all alone! I’ve got to have someone here!,” and so on. No real thought or kindness for the man who had passed away, or for the son whose life she was continuing to ruin. Remember that in every setback, in every disaster, there is lurking somewhere the seed of victory. It’s hard to realize it at the time, but it’s there and only courage and intelligence can find it.

Number 9: Meet your problems with decision.

In the multitude of practical problems you are obliged to meet in the course of living, you cannot possibly always be right; nor can you always make precisely the move that would be to your greatest advantage. But if, by and large, you will use the principles of intelligence and truth, your mistakes will not loom large or be very important. Furthermore, it is better to adjust your thinking to allowing for and admitting to a few mistakes than it is to keep mulling and turning every little problem over and over in your mind.

Number 10: Make the present moment an emotional success.

Do this by keeping your attitude and your thinking as cheerful and pleasant as possible, right now.

Number 11: Always be planning something.

A basic psychological requirement in every person is the need for new experiences. Without them, life sags down into a rut of interminable drudgery.

Number 12: Don’t let irritating things get your goat.

In almost every day there are worries or irritations that would get under your skin if you let them. Don’t.

Although I was only able to touch lightly on a few of the principles contained in a single chapter of Dr. John Schindler’s fine book, “How to Live 365 Days a Year,” published by Prentice-Hall, I can certainly recommend it!

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